words of wisdom

I previously wrote a post on how believing in your self and your destination truly and 100% makes that belief or dream happen. But for some reason or the other I felt that in our culture you are never taught about or given this spirit during our child hood or any phase of our life by our parents or teachers or even religion ( I am only talking about Hinduism). I’m sure some parents have done this but mine didn’t I should say or thats what I remember. Most of the parents in our culture spend so much energy preaching us study study study and life is all about going to university getting married having kids but they fail to preach about self acceptance and belief and anything can be achieved in life by simply believing in you and your destination and when you have the true passion for it.

This aspect of our culture and religion really bugged me. Bugged me so much that I was keept on thinking why is it this way in our life? You open a Religious text book and all you find is a bunch of people who opened doors by singing Thevarams and curing illnesses by simply applying Veebuthi. And before the religious examination all we do is cram a bunch of Thevarams and just know which Star the Nayanmar was born in, while we don’t even know our star or don’t know why the hell we have to learn these but simply for getting good marks. The worst part is we make fun of India for not teaching religion in their schools while we simply teach the Hindu version of Harry Potter in our classes and feel entirely proud by knowing a bunch of Thevarams and have no clue what the true meaning of our religion is and complain about how so many people are converting to Christianity and have no respect to their born religion what so ever. Stupid isn’t it? Well thats what I think.

Utter stupidity that we have everything in our religion and culture but have no clue how to execute it or simply not bothered but have so much fun complaining. I’m really disappointed the way a Hindu Temple currently functions where all the Iyer does is memorize a bunch of Sanskrit god knows what they mean and just pour milk and honey and just send us back with smiles and some coconuts and bananas. Well the package increases with more money you give.

But what I found out is a lot of things you do in the Temple is all about making your belief stronger and bringing the courage within you that things you wish for can happen. And that you are not only alone in this journey but asking the god you believe in for assistance. No clue how that works?

Think about it. All the archanais we do. The Ghee lamps we light. The nethikadans we do. The vows we make. And all the other minor kiriyas we do. Its all about making your self believe that god is with you just keep on believing. When we do a archanai what do we do? we tell our name and star and what do we hope from that? That we shall live well in our life. What do we do when we say we’ll crack 100 coconuts if this event takes place or my sickness gets cured? Why do we go light ghee lamps hoping god will hear our prayers? God is all around us? why do we have to go to the Temple and do it? Well its about making your mind focused into your destination and just tell your self be strong i’m doing this kiriya hoping that one day it will come true because lighting this lamp calls the god to be with me. And think about Yoga and meditation. What is its main principle? what does it want you to gain from it? It helps you to be focused so that your destination can be well traveled. I was listening to this interview where they were talking about the real meaning of conducting a Yaagam. A Yaagam is usually done when you want certain things happening and you ask a priest to conduct it for you where he builds up a flame in the temple and puts in certain things in it while saying some mantras. But what is it all about? When you do the Yaagam your mind and body is totally focussed on your destination therefore its making your body tune it self to reach the destination. And each Yaagam has its own set of things that goes in the fire and what do they do? Well the smoke that comes from burning certain things help stimulate certain places in your body which in return gives you this energy to work for what you want.

So common. We have all these aspects but why or why do we fail to realize, preach or understand it and make good use of our religion than worrying which star certain saint was born and what raagam a Thevaram was sung in. We need a change. Our religious books are just garbage. Our preaching about life is wrong. Life should be about dreaming, dreaming big, believing , believing in your destination and achieving in it rather than a set of rules that you follow generations to generations and have life be conducted by someone else rather than your self. Religion in about believing in you. Believe in your self. Dream big!

I went for a haircut today and the lady who cut my hair (whos white) started asking me what I do and so on. Then eventually she started talking about her son and she said how he was really interested in doing Mechanical Engineering but suddenly during grade 12 he had this sudden interested in becomming a chef and now hes studying to be a CHEF! Holy smokes..she also said eventhough her son is really good when it comes to math and he always had interests in mechanical things his natural talent was being a good cook so when her son told that she was more than happy as he was following his heart! And then I said man thats like two opposite poles and its very unbelievable for me and she said yeah true but he enjoys it plus it has a great demand, and that its not the career you choose its all about doing the career you love and be able to be greatful about it even after certain years and making the mark of your own in it!

This chat I had today kept on resonating in me all day today which made me write this post. I was like that guy is so lucky to have parents who support him so much. I imagined myself going to my parents and saying mum, dad I love engineering and I love math but my heart tells me to follow my dream of becomming a chef and without a second wasted my dad would have screamed at me yelled at me he will even say he got so hurt and I am pretty sure he wont eat that day. And then I will have to APOLOGISE for thinking that way and then just go with engineering to please him and my so called “relatives”. Well actually thats what I am doing right now. I am not in the correct career path but I am doing it for my parents. Last summer after my marks were low I was crying and yelling at them for making me doing engineering and that my passion is somewhere else and my dad was completly upset. And mind you I was only saying I wanted to do a Business degree not becomming a chef! But then he called my uncle who supposedly has a PhD and that guy started ranting about how I was the first person to go to university as I am the eldest of my cousins and I shouldnt set such a bad example for my younger cousins of changing career choices! I am nto setting a bad example! I am telling them do what you LOVE! heavens!
Oh fuck! Well I am still stuck with engineering!

What is it with brown parents? seriously? No one survives if you dont become an engineer or a doctor? The worlds richest person is a doctor? no engineer? NOOO he doesnt even have a degree! One day a person interviewed Oprah winfrey and asked how she managed to become the top and the first black billionaire, she answered I do what I love and what my heart tells me therefore I am able to pour 1000% percent to what I am doing therefore I am successful. In order for you to be successful you do what you LOVE! Not do something that others want you to do!

I was chatting with my friends in Lanka the other day and what he told me just pissed me off. Everyone wants to become a doctor in Colombo and they are going to lands you have never heard of. They are all saying they are goign to Latvia, Czech republic, Belarus and all those un- heard countries just to do medicine since its cheap! WTF! This is crazy! When will we learn? Why are we always deprived of what we want? Just becuase my relatives is going to treat me good I have to become a doctor or engineer? NOOO.. I want to do what I love to do. I dont want to wear my hard hat and sit in a office or site just waiting when will my day end so I can get out of this crap!

I am praying this trend should change. This mentality should change. This is unfair for the children. They have so many talents that are just getting wasted. Passions that are been ignored. We are losing our Bill Gates and Oprah Winfrey and people who can make a huge impact to the world since we are all busy becomming doctors and engineers and not very successful in it! So I am prayign for a change! Atleast our generation should realise this, step up and do something about it. Enough shattered dreams and boring jobs you dont like to do. DO what you love and then you’ll see success and you will be on TOP OF THE WORLD!

Ok yesterday I watched Oprah unexpectedly after a hell of a tiring day and well I was lucky! I must say after watching yesterdays show I was truly inspired to make a difference in the world! Atleast in the smallest way possible.

They were talking about the new (RED) campaign which is started by the rocker BONO and one of his partners Bobby Shriver, its all about eliminating AIDS especially in Africa where people do not have enough money to even survive for a day. We are gifted enough to get medicine from a corner store but nope not Africa.

There was a story shown on Oprah which took place when Alicia Keys Visited Africa. She met a boy who looked so young liek an 8 year old shown in the picture below, but no he was 17 years old since he couldnt get treatment for AIDS his body couldnt develop. He should ahve taken the treatment when he was three years old. But becuase of this illness hes like an outcast in the society. He even cant go to school and hes an orphan whos been taken care by his older sisters. And when the boy saw care from people like Alicia Keys he simply cried which was so hard to look. But later like a week ago they got to know that the boy past away! How many children like this are suffering form this illness and poverty! They should be helped…They should be helped to get good education therefore they gain knowledge to help themselves and others from preventing to spread thsi deadly disease and live a happy wholesome and healthy life.

Alicia Keys with a boy affected by AIDS

Therefore rather than asking people for money all the time for charity which gets into our nerves, they came up with an idea where they partnered up with certain brands and made product which are basically red and part of their proceeds in some cases 50% of the proceeds goes to help buy AIDS medication, funds for shcooling and all sorts of important needs in AFRICA. The participating stores are Gap, Motorolla, Giorgio Armani, Converse, and Apple Ipod. And they have some awesome products you guys need to checkout.
But the sad part is noen of them are available in Canada yet which is pathetic hope its available soon and you do a small part to help save a person from HIV.
Bono and Alicia Keys recorded a new song as well whihc again the proceeds of that songs goes for the HIV fund created by Alicia Keys and the Songs is so good and touching: Heres the link to check it out: Dont give up

Here are some of the products:

Gap Tshirt

Motorolla Red Razor

Armani (Red) watches

Converse

Apples (Red) IPOD

I have a serious problem with this world! You guys must be thinking I am jobless finding faults with the world since my last post was also dealing with a social issue. But no for some reason I feel someone has to talk about it or else why do I need to complain about it?

Well this concern is about maintaining one’s individuality! That has become a serious problem atleast in my life…..Its seems very hard to be your self these days… You cant do what you like, you cannot dress the way you want, u cannot choose courses the way you want..you cannot have thoughts for your self….cannot have your own opinion….cannot lead your own suitable lifestyle! it just sucks!
I thoguht this was only a problem in Sri Lanka and thought since its a developign country these kinda minor matters are overlooked and peopel expect you to be someone they want u to be more than what you want to be.

But nooooooo its not only srilanka… But its a universal problem thats happening mostly among teenagers and youth in their early 20’s…

For the past few months especially the last two I couldnt take it anymore… People are been so picky on hwo I am and are giving irritating comment to change to someone I am not! I am not likign it at all!
Ive been said I have to change my hairstyle…I have to get a freakign gf….I need to wear baggy pants and look cool…I need to get ultra modern sunglasses and look cool… I have to talk cool with the cool accent…I need to do stuff that attract girls…i have to do this that I CANNOT TAKE IT ANYMORE! PLEASE FOR GODS SAKES!

Cant I be freaking me! Well there is a difference between adapting to the modern society and changing ancient beleifs which dont suit nowadays and live happy and to change your personality compltely.. Why the hell should I change my personality? Cant I be PARTHIBAN!
If i change my opinions and my style and become someone and wear earrings and look cool and just go behind girls its not me! It acting someone elses part and I dont wanna do it!

I dont want a freaking girl friend now.. I like to take my time…but above all they want me to even experiment sex! GOD HELP ME! I simply dont get thsi world…

Why cant oen freaking idiot like me whos not bothering peopel and just doing his thing maintain his freaking personality and be me! Why do I need to copy someone else?

People should maintain who they are and be happy with it! Theres no use being someone else showing off…gettign a gf for getting status and just having sex….If thsi is the thing portrayed everywhere and you guys are so foolish to just absorb it and change your self thats so pathetic and I do feel sorry for you guys!

So guys Please Please just be your freakign self or else we wouldnt have a 6 billion population in this world with 6 billion different faces and smiles! 6 billion population should have 6 different personalities maintaining their uniqueness…

So please atleast if you dont wanna do it just keep quiet and mind your own business! stop changing other people into who they are not!

Seriously, Child Molesters should be shot like dogs in front of people. No other penalty would serve well as just killing them. Its not only about molestation, thats just the beginning of a disastrous future for a child. I am frustrated, full of hatred. I will serve jail time murdering them than just staring at whats going on. Even more pathetic is when this combines with a broken family. Even the thought of it is killing me how would it be when someone experiences this and far more?
What made me think like this so suddenly? Well its a long story here it goes:

There is a friend of mine who I do not want to disclose his name who lives in Sri Lanka. Yesterday he got so emotional and he just wanted to let out all his sorrows as he couldn’t take it anymore therefore he started to tell his story and struggles.

When he was 10 years old someone close to his family has come to his house to rent out a room for few years. Someone the family trusted so much. But later it seems his intentions were different. He started to molest my friend who was 10 at that time. Since he was 10 he didn’t understand what was going on. He felt trapped, confused, its taboo to speak out so he kept quiet. It was continued for few years and eventually the molester left somewhere else don’t know where! It was just the beginning for my friend for the endless emotional struggles and confusions he had to face by himself. He did not know who to trust, whom to speak too, he felt if he tells his parents he would be looked down and he has been developing hatred all along just putting a smiling face to the outside world.
Now he is almost 20 but the hatred has changed to something else. He easily gets angry with people. He wants people to listen his way or he gets heart broken. If someone just casually says well I need to go home, I have stuff to do talk to you later he thinks that people don’t like him and tries to ignore him! How pathetic is that!

To add more into this he has a broken family. He says that his family is not attached to him therefore he doesn’t know what parental love is all about. He was adopted when he was born but brought back when he was 10 by his parents. His parents fight a lot at home. His father seems to be very abusive. I just couldn’t take anymore!

How can one person go through all of this while we complain on the smallest things possible? Its hard even to listen to this. You see these things on TV and on movies. But you never think it would happen to a friend who has been supportive to you all way through! I cannot believe it.

But he said while he was 18/19 I don’t know when exactly, there was a friend of his who he felt like telling this story and opened up to him and that friend has listened to him and being so supportive for him helping him out and trying to figure out a brand new chapter in his life. He said that’s when I got parental love. That’s the first time someone listened to me and talked to him openly and that felt so good. Parental love through a friend. And they emotionally, psychologically and even physically bonded with each other. But he is still in the journey and struggle of finding who he really is. What his sexual orientation is, because he also has a girl friend who again is very supportive towards him but her parents are very objective towards their relationship. He loves her so much but he doesn’t know where to go next!

Man I don’t know what to say. What a story, what a struggle, what a journey. A guy who is living through all of this and still manages to put on a happy face. Bravo!
I cant imagine how we complain for the slightest thing possible while there are many people going through the most horrible phases of life! I just don’t understand this world!

How could someone get the mind to molest a kid? A kid is so young, innocent and doesn’t know what is good or bad. How could one possibly take advantage of that? Its just nasty! That’s why I say molesters should be shot and no other penalty would pay the price. When one is shot then eventually the others will back off. It’s a kid for god sakes!

And again broken families should first thing go counseling. Life doesn’t work that way. You guys can fight the hell you want but don’t have kids if you do so. You don’t know how much a kid suffers through that. Its just hard. Even the thought of that is hard but how can u go through ti without anybody to support u. Please for god sakes think about the innocent mind of a kid!

What did it do to deserve hell on earth! Please guys change and help to make the world a better place!
If any of your friends or relatives are going through some sort of abuse please help them please do! They need it. Dont feel shy and scared. Helping out someone in this situation i the first step is eliminating future abusers, drug addicts and murderers.
And on a last note. Be happy with what you have! People are going through the worst in life compared to you. So consider your self lucky and dont complain! And if you feel like complaining try to change it or just keep quiet!

Alright guys as this site is changing into a review site I am actually enjoying doing this. Have no regrets. And now for the movie and music of Rang De Basanti. Which means paint it yellow!
Oh god what a amazing and wonderful movie experience I just had a few hours ago it was simply spell bounding. Apart from the movie the music wow interwined with the story it gave the icing of the cake and lead the movie through to the end! It was amazing! Hats off to Rakeysh Om Prakash the director, ARRahman the composer and all the star cast! it was like the correct mixture of all of the above three for the right kind of healthy and tasty food you are always eager to enjoy but comes only once in a while!

I really loved the message of the movie which was IF U DONT LIKE SOMETHING IGNORE IT OR TRY TO MAKE CHANGES…DONT COMPLAIN! from the moment i heard that saying eventhough ive heard it millions of times before this time it struck me well! I liked the way the director blended the old India under the British rule where people are trying to gain independence and the new India which is ruled by corruption where there isnt anythign done to change it! amazing concept and well presented. Indian cinema no matter what language it is needs movies which are less commercial oriented and more educative especially to the youth who are the future! The music helped not only as a commericla or a relaxing element but also to move the story ahead and to give depth to whats going on. It was used very well in the movie! This movie made a huge impact on me. I just loved the way the director said how you should try to set an example… quote:” son: why are you planting this mango tree papa? Father: Only if I plant one now there would be thousands in the future” superb!
Anyways I dont want to reveal anythign of the story fr thsoe who havent watched it yet! But if u are plannign on watching it GO TO THE CINEMAS! PLEASE…. and if u havent thought of wtaching this GET YOUR ASS AND GO WATCH IT!
As the film says: I WILL SURE PAINT IT YELLOW!